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My Example, My Confidant, My Hero, My Dad



Written by Rick about his dad:

Many young people have heroes in their lives and while I certainly had some myself, my greatest hero was and still is my father.  I suppose this is natural for a young boy, but I hope to convey my feelings about my dad.  Dad is a basketball coach and as the coach's son I practically lived in the gym with my father.  I was at practice (when I was old enough not to get into trouble) and watched my father motivate, drive, and most importantly love his players.  I dreamed of playing for my hero and making him proud.  It was at these very early ages that I learned more about my father and at these early stages of my life I learned about my hero.  In this post, I hope to convey why my father is my hero. 

My father is my hero because he truly loves others.  The story of Pat Katzer is my first recollection of seeing how my father loved others.  Pat Katzer was the first player on one of my Dad’s teams that I had a connection with.  Pat took me fishing and was kind to me.  He was a great shooter--something that I aspired to be.  I remember watching Pat play.  I remember being at camps where Pat would coach me.  Pat, however, had a great trial in his life.  One cold wintery day, Pat was headed home to get gear for basketball practice and hit a patch of black ice. He was thrown from the Jeep and hit a tree head first.  As you can imagine, Pat was fighting for his life.  This was a scary time for me.  During this time, I remember watching Dad.  Dad cried for Pat.  He visited Pat.  He prayed for Pat.  He loved Pat.  Thankfully, Pat survived, but his life would never be the same.  Pat would never play basketball again.  He had to relearn to talk and walk.  I remember visiting Pat a few years later (we moved at some point as Dad was forced out of his job at Elma) and watching Dad care for Pat.  It is in times like this, that I learned what true love is.  Love or charity is kind, seeks for the good of others, believes, hopes, and serves.  These are all things that describe my hero, my father. 

My father is my hero because he is humble.  At no point in my life was this on greater display than in my teenage years.  Like most teenagers, I knew everything.  Further, I was certain that my parents knew nothing, really nothing.  Due to this, I would instigate contention in our home.  At one point, I decided I was going to move out.  On that night, my father and I got into it.  I don’t recall the details, but I’m sure basketball or a girl was behind it.  Nevertheless, I stormed off and I think I was at the Anderson’s barn.  Maybe there was a youth dance that night.  Regardless, I remember dad coming up to me and telling me he was sorry and that he loved me.  I don’t think he had anything to apologize about, but dad would always apologize.  If he felt that he was wrong in any way, dad apologized.  It is for this reason, that my dad is my hero.

Finally, my dad works hard and always believes.  Dad had polio as a young child.  As a result, one of his legs is shorter.  Nevertheless, Dad loves basketball.  I didn’t learn this until later in life, but due to his polio, Dad never made his high school basketball team.  He didn’t let this stop him from being an influence on the game he loves.  In fact, Dad didn’t let anything stop him from accomplishing his dreams.  I think my grandfather, Grandpa Cliff, was the source of this hard work ethic and optimistic outlook.  Grandpa would always tell Dad that he could do anything.  I’m thankful Dad instilled this in me.  I have benefited from my father’s hard work and optimistic outlook in many ways. His hard work ethic and positive view on life are more reasons why Dad is my hero.
I love my father.  He is turning 64 today! Happy birthday, Dad!!  He is also retiring this year.  I hope to one day leave the kind of legacy he has left. I want to influence peoples’ lives for good like Dad did.  In short, I hope to live up to the life of my hero, my dad. 

Comments

Unknown said…
I know your Dad is great just from the son he raised, Your a very good resemblance of your Dad, and I'm positive he is very proud of the man and husband and father that you have become. I'm grateful for the example that he was to you because he allowed us to have a great bishop and good friend. Happy birthday to your Dad and thank him for his great contribution to society.

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