Rick and I are celebrating 21 years of marriage this week, and I have been struggling to find the perfect anniversary gift. I have been thinking about it so much, that I had a dream about it. In my dream, Rick says, "I know what I'm getting you for our anniversary." I say, "Don't tell me. Just let it be a surprise." He says, "I think you're going to like it. It's something you can use." I repeat. "Just don't tell me, OK." Let me interrupt with a little background here . . . Rick is terrible at surprises--mostly because he can't contain a good idea, but also because he must test the waters. When a gift-giving event is coming up, he will bring the gift up over and over again in conversation or by tossing little hints until I figure it out. When I figure it out, I have a few options. If I like the gift, I can either pretend I don't know and act super surprised and delighted on gift-giving day, or I can...