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Selective Memory?

Rick rarely looks at blogs (except ours) and rarely says anything about them. But, one picture caught his eye--there was a guy taking a nap on the couch. He told me, "See, his wife lets him take a nap on the couch sometimes." I agreed, but reminded him that maybe he has forgotten that he is allowed to do the same thing sometimes. He scoffed at my reply, "You never let me just take a nap on the couch."

Well, here is my response to Rick . . . .

When we were dating--this is at your sisters' apartment. With Emily and her "baby." I know you aren't actually sleeping here, but you were and woke up when I got out the camera.
You and baby Makayla . . .
You and Little Ricky . . . (OK, not-so-little-Ricky).
Story time after church . . .
I know it has been a long time since you have had a nice, long nap on the couch. Nowadays, it seems our house is so noisy that even if you are allowed a nap, you have to go hide in our room while the kids are banished to the basement. Even those moments, though, are rare. It seems like life just gets busier and busier and I probably ask more of you than I should. Please know I always appreciate your help even if I don't seem very grateful all of the time. You are a wonderful husband, and your willingness to sacrifice those dreamy, drooly naps on the couch so that I may have a little break of my own just illustrates how wonderful you are. You are my knight in shining armor, and I know for sure I have taken more naps over the years than you have (I just couldn't find any proof in pictures).
One thing I noticed about all these pictures is that, yes, you are relaxing, but with the exception of the time when we were dating, you are relaxing with our children. I am sure, all of those times I appreciated the little break while the house was quiet with napping children--and if they weren't actually asleep, they were spending some enjoyable time with their dad. What dad doesn't deserve a nap now and then--especially one like you who often places the needs of your family above your own. I'll make sure you get one one of those sought-after naps soon (just try not to drool on the couch)!

Comments

Angie said…
I love napping dad pictures. I have a few of my own. Dad's and kids are so sweet when they sleep.
July 16, 2009 at 12:32 PM
Chalonn said…
Way to capture a good nap! I might start taking pics for when I need to write a post like this to Heber!
July 17, 2009 at 12:27 AM
Debbie said…
Most of my naps are with the kids too. Those are the best ones because not only you get rest but the kids do to. I am glad that you guys have a blog. It is nice to see how you are all doing. Say hi to the kids for me. And tell rick he needs to check out the blogs more often.

Uncle Matt
July 22, 2009 at 8:52 PM
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